Affirmations Suck! How to create powerful intentions that GET YOU WHAT YOU WANT!

Affirmations suck.

Yup, I said it.

I can just hear all the gasps, and the instant reactive dismissal.  Hold on, let me explain.

Affirmations are nice.

You are told to make them concise, in the present and of course positive.  So they are short and sweet.  How nice.  I personally don't need short and sweet.  I don't need short and sweet mentors. I don't need short and sweet business relationships, and I definitely don't need a short and sweet dream. (I really have a comment about short and sweet men, but I'm gonna be positive and let it go.)

I need POWERFUL and DYNAMIC. 

If you are looking to really live a more passionate, expansive, and abundant life, couldn't you always use some more power and dynamism on your side?

I also need statements that move my insides.  That bang the drum of my desires so LOUD, I can't help but get massively ignited and turned on.  What you place your attention on grows.  And that includes your intentions.

Short and sweet won't cut it.

Why invest your time with warm and fuzzy when what you really deserve is to hit the big delicious prize- YOUR DREAMS.  Dreams aren't created with warm and fuzzy.  They require clarity, and big heart grabbing inspirations that juice up your heart energy so high you could climb Macchiu Picchiu in a day.  (by the way that is one of my intentions. To visit it. Not the climbing in a day part).

For over a year now I've been saying "Affirmations Suck" and when I've said it to groups during public talks and events, the shock in the room is almost palpable.  The Louise Hayers nearly have cardiac arrest, and the rest have to blink a few times to confirm I'm actually really standing in front of them.

It's a bold statement.  I admit it.

And I love BOLD.  Bold makes dreams happen.  Bold made civil rights and women's lib possible.  Bold is what stands behind Apple and the most bodacious business man on the planet Sir Richard Branson.  And bold made the CN tower stand tall. I'm a proud Torontonian.

Bold is what will get the internal mechanisms of your passions churning in the direction YOU WANT TO GO.

Affirmations won't do that.  They aren't bad.  They are nice, sweet and fuzzy.  Eat some candy if you want that feeling.  Pet your dog.

But please stop reciting warm and fuzzy.

When I would recite "All is well" or "The right and perfect job is coming to me now", my insides wanted to gag.  Not because they were bad statements, but because my heart couldn't believe them or CONNECT TO THEM!

You can't fool your heart.  My mind was saying one thing and my heart needed to be reminded of what REALLY MATTERS to me.  And those are my dreams, my aspirations and the people I love and want to help in this world.  Not the candy words.

My heart knows exactly what it craves.  And so does yours.  I needed to really inject that into my daily mind mastery practice.  So I threw out the affirmations and I completely subscribed to INTENTION SETTING.  I got really CLEAR on WHAT and WHY, I want what I want.

So to make the most powerful and heart driven statements you need to dig DEEP down into your BEing and access the feelings that you want  to FEEL in life.  How you want to feel is essentially what rapidly and effectively creates manifestation of your goals.

So get out a pen and piece of paper.  And start the Intention Process now!

Decide your "What".  What do you really want?  What is the goal. the dream or desire?  Get that down on paper by starting the statement with " I intend ___________ 

The second part is the juice that will get you into the vibe of what you want.  You need to be it on a feeling level FIRST, before you see it in your physical reality.  Now Brainstorm your WHY?  WHY DO YOU WANT IT?  What will it give you?  Keep going deeper and deeper, by asking WHY over and over again till you have an intensely delicious FEELING (state) you want to BE and experience.  

So here is an example from a client of mine:

"I intend to create a new business because the most exhilarating feeling is to BE my own boss and see my efforts blossom into success."

That gets the job done.  That reminds her of why she is doing all the steps in the mean time, before manifesting her prize desire.  And guess what? She's more likely not to GIVE UP!   If you don't know WHY you aspire to having, doing or BEING something or someone you'll be left all warm and fuzzy and also really conflicted.  

What do you intend?  What you desire.? WHY?  I wanna know!  Comment below and share with me your dreams!  Tell me if this made any sense or how the exercise worked for you.  I would love to hear all about it.

Namaste

Ask powerful questions and you receive powerful answers!

What kind of questions do you ask?  And what do you ask of yourself? 



I mean precisely, what flavour are your questions?


Do they sound like this?  :


Why does this always happen to me?

    Why do people do this to me all the time?
    
         Why can't I make more money, be more successful and have a great loving partner?


These questions are weak, and will not INSPIRE any action, let alone MASSIVE action.

Why?  Because they leave you a VICTIM.  



They also leave you in the problem, not the Soulution (that is a deliberate typo ;)

Any answer to those above questions defines only the problem and your current state. 

AND those questions WON'T GET YOU TO SHIFT!

When I teach the S.A.F.E Method™, the ASK process is probably my most favourite.  Because it truly empowers people to THINK powerfully, and ASK POWERFUL questions.  Questions that lead you to SOLVING and shifting to the RESOLUTION and get you to shift out of the limiting negative state you are in. 


You want challenges.  They aren't "bad" for you.  The problem is STAYING in the challenge or conflict longer than necessary drains our energy and doesn't propel us forward.


So to rephrase the above to more powerful questions try these:

How can I feel better or even a little better right now?

     What action can I take that will allow me to make more money, have a better                   relationship etc, etc?

         

             How can I attract better people, relationships in my life? 

Key point here:   

You are defining what you VALUE, what you truly believe you deserve and you are using your INTERNAL guidance system - your feelings to get you to a more authentic and powerful state.

These questions stimulate the brain to get you creative and provide Soulutions.  And if you go deep enough they access the internal KNOWER and spirit within you.


To learn more about the S.A.F.E Method™ and the "Fabulous 5" - The 5 most powerful questions you can ask to access your personal best then please contact me at:

Harmonyofhealing@gmail.com  or  647- 351-7282.  

My new website is coming soon!! So stay tuned my Core Connectors!  Thank you always for connecting with me :)

Namaste

Piera

Just Detox! How to feel great and lose the holiday weight!

So many of us indulged.  Some more than others. And why not? We work hard, and we need to play hard sometimes too.   So no guilt trips here.  I'm all about balance my friends.

But you may be feeling a little out of sorts.  Maybe low on energy?  Do the jeans feel a little tight? A little foggy and having a hard time getting out of bed in the morning?

Well a good detox will alleviate the post holiday bloat and help get that metabolism revved up to lose the extra pounds you might have piled on.   

Have no fear, Piera the detox Queen is here!

Let's DETOX!

My Detox plan will :

• Give you MORE ENERGY! And who doesn't need that? Less toxins means less of a burden to your body,  therefore freeing up more energy for you to feel awesome VITALITY!

• Allow you to clean out your colon which means better absorption and assimilation of vitamins, and minerals. So you actually get more out of your food without eating more food,  which lessens cravings and promotes a healthy weight.

• Improve mental Focus!  Accumulated toxins in the body contribute to a lack of concentration, and poor brain function overall.  Also ailments like chronic fatigue, sleep disturbances and anxiety or depression can be healed by lessening the toxic load and getting your system clean.

• Help prevent disease!  Cleansing helps us to eliminate toxic chemicals, and old stuff that may be hanging out in our digestive tract.  When stuff hangs out too long in the colon, it creates a breeding ground for bacteria to multiply and digestive disease and inflammation to result.  A healthy gut = a longer, more heathy life.

• Kick start your weight loss goals and boosts your metabolism! During the first stage of a detox you will eliminate quite a lot and that translates to some quick weight loss.  However, a cleanse or the use of fasting should not be used as quick fix for weight loss.  I always promote sensible healthy eating , with regular exercise and a stress management practices for losing weight.  That brings long term results!

For a full consultation that will address your particular detox needs book an appointment with me at Platinum Health and Wellness www.platinumhealth.ca.  I will provide you a tailored and individualized detox program that includes:

• A specific "clean diet" so that you can prepare your digestive system for a full cleanse/detox without shocking your body, and allowing you to avoid huge withdrawal or detox symptoms.  I want this to be a safe and gentle expereince. Cleansing can cause discomfort, however there are ways to make the journey not such a bumpy ride ;)

• A protocol of specific herbs to cleanse the colon.  

• A specific protocol of supplements that will assist the body to detox, and support your vital organs (mainly liver, gallbladder, kidneys and colon) throughout the process.

• Exercise, water, and other therapy recommendations to assist the cleanse/detox process.  

• Breath work instruction to assist the release of toxins and help you connect to your own healing potential.

If you have any questions and to book your appointment you can reach me at :

Piera Bonventre, H.D

647-351-7282

http://platinumhealth.ca

Here's to a cleansed, energized new you in 2013!!!

Namaste

I learned a few things in 2012...

Here are some of the more notable things I learned in 2012.....


That you can't seek what you already are and own.


That travelling pianos makes a uber cool art project.


That  it's time to get off the soap box and do the laundry.   Being spiritual doesn't mean "clearing our crap, or leaving "3D" or any of the other verbiage we use to distract ourselves from the REAL WORK.  Our spiritual growth relies on walking our talk, living our truth instead of just declaring it , and BEING the example of love and compassion.


That Mr. Right won't come along until I own my own title of Mrs Right and amazing as is right now.


That there actually is great Mexican food in Toronto.  You just have to dig a little.


That the food at a resto doesn't really matter as much as the company you are with.


That Bradley Cooper is half Italian, and I wouldn't mind having even just a quarter of him.

That not getting a job you interviewed for is actually a huge BLESSING in disguise. THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for allowing me to see I have all the strength, smarts,  and hutzpah I need to run my own business.  It's confirmed that I am to live out my entrepreneurial DNA, and also my higher purpose here, and therefore NOT work for a boss.


That a cancelled Duran Duran concert didn't end my world. Well only for a little bit.


That some friends may physically not be around, but that actually their connection is so deep that it's felt beyond time, space, and words.


That looking in the mirror happens every time you see yourself in the other.


That when I think my life sucks, I need to remind myself I can walk, breath, eat on my own, and I'm not fighting for my life.


That wanting more out of life isn't greed.  It actually is the courage to admit you know what you are worth and deserve.


That the more I risk being open to all that comes in my life, the more familiar and unthreatened I feel with whatever comes in my life.


That self hate creates world hate, and inner peace will bring peace to the outer wars we see surrounding us.  We have full control over creating the inner peace that our hurting world needs to shift, and is demanding right now more than ever.


That hugs heal beyond words in most circumstances.

That dogs still rule over cats. I'd rather have the slobber of my dog's tongue on my face, than a cat hissing at me and scratching my eyes out.


That there is a NUTELLA store in Germany.  It sells all things NUTELLA. OMFG that is brilliant!


That a human unlike other animals, never eats its own vomit. Ya that would be gross right?! (A good friend made this analogy in reference and as advice that I not entertain the idea of getting back together with an ex boyfriend from the past.) Smart girl!  Thanks Isla Bonita ;)



That Unity is vital to our human family's evolution more now than ever.  Thank you Rana Unity ;)

That books don't fly off shelves for no reason at all.  

That to take a stand for something in this world, to speak up and truly live your beliefs takes courage, immense strength and Cogliones. (That's balls in italian) I want even more people like that by my side.


That I have no room for atheists in my life.  Sorry God took full center stage.  And I finally have let go of the fear, and politically correct bullshitness ( ya I made up that word) about using the word God in my public or business life.  There are worst things.

That bullshitness is my new fav word for all that is bullshit.

That when someone shows you who they are through their actions, non actions, words, or non words, BELIEVE them the first time.  Don't wait till the 15th time to be convinced of their bullshitness.  Thank you Oprah.

That I like being given flowers by the one who is courting me, and if he doesn't like to do that, well good bye Jack.

And,

That if your date only pays for the first lunch date and is too cheap to buy/take you out for dinner every once and awhile thereafter, he most likely will be cheap in most other areas of the relationship including you know what. Done with that bullshitness as well.

That life presents the "ashram" at any given moment.  One does not need to go to India to grow spiritually.


That an untethered soul delivers the true happiness we desire and seek. Thank you Michael Singer.


That great friends are the best "anti depressant" you could ask for.

Here are the more notable ones...

That a real loving relationship isn't founded on comfort, but rather on shared beliefs, values and the mutual growth each seeks to attain on their own individual path.  That each relishes watching the other get past their challenges, through learning their own depth and capacity to love and be compassionate towards themselves and the rest.


That fear is as real as the boogey man.


That you can help pull someone up, but they must climb the rest of the way on their own.


That I LOVE and want to be surrounded by more and more positively ambitious people, who are passionate about their lives and who everyday try their best to live from their authentic power and life purpose.

That I respect people not for their titles, their status or degrees.  But for their willingness to show up in life for themselves first and honour their highest truth above all else.  

That I find more and more reasons to laugh, especially at myself.  And it truly is the best medicine.


That using a diagnosis or illness is not an excuse to play the victim and use the "disability" card.  I've met SOOOO many people this year with incredible stories where the odds were immensely against them health and otherwise, and yet they choose to not back down,  not to give up and instead, rise above their mind's critical story. God bless every one of you for being such a shining example of what humanity is capable of!


That if women spent less time on their thigh, waist, butt or bust size, they could actually spend more time creating successful lives, a powerful existence and legacies of amazing creations in this world.

That by throwing out my scale it was a huge leap forward to attaining the above aforementioned.

That if a man comments on your bra size, waist size, or butt size (especially if his junk is less than stellar)  he should be thrown out with the scale.  Clears even more space.

 Having said all that...


Love truly trumps everything and anything worth living for.


It's been a great 2012, and here's to even MORE kick ass 2013!!!


Mad Loves and Namaste

Piera

How to Change What Isn't Working Now!

So you are wanting to improve your life, create transformation and feel more invigorated and healthy?  Many of us do want all of this and yet aren't achieving it.  The problem is we don't BELIEVE we can manifest it or even more discouraging we don't BELIEVE we DESERVE it.

The moment you believe you do deserve more, and better in your life is a breakthrough moment in your perception and therefore your ENERGY and vibration.

Let me  explain further.  We are taught that the circumstances we see and "find" ourselves in are given to us by the external world.

How many times have you said "why is this happening to me? and NOW?!"

Things aren't happening to you.  You are happening to things!  If you can truly grasp this, own this and integrate this you will be EMPOWERED beyond your mind can comprehend.  You will take yourself out of VICTIM mode, where you are at the mercy of everything, every person and every other and bring yourself into your own POWER.

If you create your circumstances then guess what?  YOU CAN CREATE the circumstances that you really desire and achieve the kick ass states of energy and vitality that you deserve.

First step is to truly OWN everything.

Every thing that happens is your own creation.  Hard pill to swallow.  But once your Ego gets over that, and your BEING CONNECTS to this, you have the LEVERAGE to powerfully change your reality.

Start with your feelings.  They are the key to attracting what you really want.  If you don't feel good, you are climbing uphill and you'll struggle endlessly.

So here is my recipe for success:  

Feel good.

Find ways to feel better and better and better. (this means you need to figure out "what really moves you, inspires you, really gets you cranked for awesomeness!)

Find a way to be present and connect to your core.   Then GIVE and OPERATE from that energy every single day. That's it.

Simple.

Requires that you show up, be present, and live with intention.

Namaste


Piera

How to RISE from a FALL! 3 KEY Ways to get back on your feet

We stumble, we trip, and we can fall. SO WHAT?!

That didn't stop Edison on his 999 time attempting to create the light bulb.

That didn't stop Sylvestor Stallone after 200 auditions, and big fat NOs in his face.

That didn't stop YOU when you were learning to walk, and got up and tried a few more steps again and again and again.

The perception that a "mistake" or achieving a goal is failure is just that- a perception.

Shift it.

We need to look at things from a different angle. There are an infinite number of possibilities in this universe. Why do we get stuck on that one thing that didn't pan out exactly like we thought would be best.

Maybe it wasn't the best possible outcome. MAYBE just maybe, there is something BETTER!

That is a tremendous REALIZATION in my own life. Something doesn't work, or a mistake is made and it can feel like nothing else is possible. CHALLENGE that feeling and thinking. Because it is FACT that potentials in this universe are LIMITLESS.

We can't see every possibility because the vastness of the living matrix is hard for us to comprehend entirely. So this is where it gets tricky. BUT so SIGNIFICANT. We must call upon a dear and most misunderstood friend we have...

FAITH.

You need to believe beyond what you see with your eyes, feel with your hands and hear with your ears. That is the meaning of FAITH.

FAITH requires a great sense of self trust. That is not a theoretircal lesson. It is learned and practiced till we EXPERIENCE the power of FAITH and BELIEF.

And that my friends, requires doing the INNER work. For nothing in your outer existence can manifest without something happening FIRST within you! Do you get that?

We need to stop trying to comb the image we see in the mirror. Take the comb and fix your own image, in order to see a new and desired one reflecting back at you. We keep trying to "fix" and change our outer circumstances and then miss the mark entirely.

Change YOUR own state by changing YOUR thoughts and then your OUTER world changes to reflect that. Its an INSIDE out job. Not the other way around!

3 Steps to bounce back from a stumble:

1) STOP: to SHIFT and take note of what isn' working. So in essence you check in and take stock of what you are sitting in. You need to see how far deep your stuck in your "mud". Then you can plan the way out. ALSO what is key is taking a moment to stop and BREATH. The breath is your life force. Give up on the breath, and life gives up on you!

2) Take ACTION quickly- Once you shift your thoughts, your feelings will automatically follow and change too. Now you take ACTION.

The Key to ACTION:

Take positive action(s) that leave you feeling better than before is the KEY!! It may actually mean doing something completely UNRELATED and that TAKES CARE OF YOU.

So you may just leave the challenge and go for a walk on the boardwalk. Or if you love art you might take the afternoon and go to an art gallery and get lost in the beauty of what you see there. Once you move your energy in a better feeling way, then you can build UPON that by taking other actions to then address the challenge. You then can build momentum again, and try it with a different perspective.

You cannot create a better direction from a "bad" place in ANYTHING you do.

3) Ask for guidance/mentor- We have such a hard time asking for help. Get over that. Ask people you know and trust for their view. Another may offer you a more objective standpoint and you may be surprised to realize something can be seen in a whole new Light.

Then ask MORE people. Ask people you bank with, friends of friends, your realtor, your librarian, and business owners you deal with. The list is really endless. ASK ASK ASK. For then you are given :)

AND ask your Higher Power. That is the most powerful guide you have 24/7. Never forget that.

Seeing you on your feet again and again and again,

Namaste

Piera

5 ways to UNBLOCK your inner creative and make magic in your life!

Ever feel like you are just going through the motions in life? Nothing seems in colour or 3D, and just plain flat and drab?

It could be a sign of a neglected inner creative wanting some attention and playtime. Your inner creative needs some TLC and so often we forget we even have one! We all have one. Never forget that.

I've heard friends, clients and loved ones say I'm not "artistic " or I am the left sided "type" who could never draw or play any kind of music, you just have to be "born that way". I'll leave the Lady Gaga jokes out for now, and disagree with that attitude. You are born "that way". You just need to let it feel safe and GOOD in order for it to come out and play.

Play is so important, and so undervalued in our society. We live to work and when we aren't working we think that just going out for drinks, or spending quality time with loved ones is play time. Uh think again. You need to spend time solo and have fun doing something you wouldn't normally do and gets you a little out of your comfort zone and still is FUN. Tricky? Not really.

You just may be blocked from imagining what that kind of fun could be. You just may not be spending enough "quality" time with yourself. And the biggest blocks are unresolved issues, emotional "stuff" and baggage.

So here are 5 "blocks" you need to address before your creative Self can create magic in your work, relationships and life:

1) Self Criticism/Judgement:

This is something we all have done and do to some degree, and the biggest block to artists all around. We sometimes can be our worst enemy. When we constantly engage in negative self talk, we truly are sending harmful messages to not only our body's cells, but to our mind and soul.

It is almost akin to abusing a small child. We can consider our inner creative as being our inner child. Would you hurt an innocent child who is just looking for some loving attention? No. So why can't we treat ourselves with as much compassion, and understanding? Once you do, the inner creative feels SAFE and then can come out to play without LIMITATIONS!

2) Unresolved disputes:

In other words, not forgiving self and others. Forgiveness is a huge healing action we can take to truly unblock our creative. Forgiveness dissolves past hurt, anger, and connects us on a deep level to our capacity to grant compassion to others. Especially to those we feel have wronged us. When we forgive, we let go of the baggage and free up the channels of creative energy. We then ALLOW for more space to be made for greater clarity and connection to our inner selves. Just let go, and let God.

3) Not Paying Attention:

The power of the present moment is unquestionably significant when it comes to creating anything in our lives. If we don't pay attention to our feelings, our words, and our interactions with others, we risk losing the precious connection to security and trust in our life.

When we pay attention we also can see more of the details and not take even what seems "subtle" for granted. When we place attention on the things that we desire, we in fact are also creating a connection to it. In this very act we can trigger amazing inspiration and great feeling vibes that help nurture and allow that inner creative a medium to express itself.

4) Guilt: is a huge BLOCK!

It denies your inner voice the ability to feel worthy of expression and hence will defeat any attempt at creating anything in your life.

Guilt has a very heavy energy that often leads to self deprecation and when you don't feel "good enough" you just can't create from a place of prosperity and true inspiration. Guilt creates a powerless state, much like blame outlined next. Our inner creative can't vibe with powerlessness and thus will retreat out of fear it will be rejected and criticized

5) Blame: is related to guilt and creates the victim mentality. We blame others when we can't own our "stuff". Blaming our parents, x-partner, or the government for what we think is wrong, can never create a safe ground for creativity. Our inner creative is a free spirit, one who wants to love without borders and boundaries and the blame game certainly get in its way to do this.

The reality is, the inner creative is truly the star of the show when it comes to living life to the grandest and fullest. How is it playing out in your life?

Leaving it backstage or worse, out of the whole production truly creates a depleted state and unfulfilled dreams. Give that inner creative the space to venture forward and feel it's authentic power. You must create that for it. No one else can do it for you.

I know you can ;)

Love and Light

Namaste

Piera